It’s Valentines Day and love is in the air.
Does my girl know love?
Yes, she does.
One of the many stereotypes about Autism is the idea that Autistic people are emotionless.
People with Autism have emotions, a whole range of emotions, but sometimes do not understand what they are or what they mean.
They may struggle to process the feelings.
This doesn’t mean that they don’t feel them.
Love is a word of many meanings.
It is a feeling of many emotions.
Emotions that a person with Autism may not be able to relate to.
That doesn’t mean that they can’t love, or behave in a loving way.
It may mean that they approach, or display, love in a way we wouldn’t expect.
She wants attention. Needs it.
She is naughty, loud, boisterous…..craving attention.
She wants to be seen, to be told off……to be loved?
Is this is how she gets that feeling?
To love someone, or something, you need a certain amount of empathy.
People on the Autism spectrum have great difficulty telling what other people may be thinking.
It is a myth that people with Autism have no empathy, infact some can feel it too much.
My girl loves.
She doesn’t know that she loves.
She feels love.
She doesn’t understand love.
She is not a hugger, she will never ask for a cuddle.
She cannot bear to touched.
She doesn’t need the physical element of love – the hugs, the kisses, the strokes of her hair as she falls asleep.
My girl likes to hit, to kick, to bite.
To leave her mark.
….she is screaming for attention, asking for our love, going about it in a different way.
Not a wrong way; to her it feels right.
Love cannot be measured.
Love cannot be displayed.
Love is a feeling that is indescribable.
It is not an emotion that is easy to understand.
If we can’t understand fully what love is how do we explain it to a person with Autism?
How do we explain what love is?
How do we explain how to love or how to be loved?
How do we teach them to recognise love?
We all feel it.
We are all familiar with it.
We may not understand it, but when we love there is an overwhelming feeling of satisfaction.
Love is love.
Everyone is capable of it.