To get everything my child needs she needs to meet criteria and tick the right boxes.
To access the right services my child needs she needs to meet criteria and tick the right boxes.
To get the education she deserves my child needs to meet criteria and tick the right boxes.
Everything is about filling in paperwork….ticking boxes.
What about my child?
Who is looking at her?
Who is seeing the real child?
What people see on paper isn’t my child.
What people write about her is only a reflection of what they have seen.
But these papers determine my childs life.
How can that be?
Why is my child a statistic, a tick in a box?
When did she stop being a person?
When did she turn into her diagnosis?
When did she become ‘that child with’ on paper?
When did I have to make her fit in a box?
In a world of technology, budgets, funding and criteria, people have forgotten how to look.
How to physically look.
How to see what is obvious, how to use common sense.
Blindsighted by meeting deadlines and using guidelines, people have forgotten to see the child for what they are, who they are…what they can realistically achieve.
They have forgotten how to look at what the child needs by seeing the child, and not rely on guidelines to tell them.
A judgement made based on a simple perception of the situation.
Something that forms, tick boxes and criteria don’t allow for.
…..yet every decision that is made about our child is made by filling in a form…making her fit in a box.