Mixed emotions.

What if you didn’t know the difference between love and hate?
How would life be?
Would everyone get on?
Would there be world peace?

It is entirely possible for you to love someone you hate.
It is entirely possible to hate someone you love.
How is that?
How can that be?
It’s those little things that live deep within and tell us how to feel.
Those little emotions controlling us and telling us how to live our lives.

What if we were emotionless?
What if our emotions were dampened down and we could choose for ourselves how we felt?
Do we choose anyway?
All these questions.
All these questions I can’t answer…..
….and I feel my emotions, I understand my emotions…
….but I don’t know the answers.

Imagine having Autism.
People with Autism have emotions.
People with Autism feel emotions.
They don’t always know what they are.
They don’t always know how to use them, how to use them to show how they are feeling.
Emotions get muddled, misrepresented.
….much different to not having emotions.

Some people with Autism show their feelings in a similar way to neurotypical people, but find it almost impossible to describe their feelings.
They may have learned facial expressions, mimic behaviours, react at innappropriate times.
They may say they do not feel emotion; simply because they do not understand how they feel.

People with Autism don’t lack emotions, but have difficulty identifying them.
Many people with Autism don’t show emotion in ways people without Autism would recognise.
People with Autism can feel emotions, they can feel empathy, they can recognise emotion, but not always understand it.
The reduced ability of recognising and understanding emotions makes it extremely difficult to respond empathically.
Therefore you can love a person you hate…..


One thought on “Mixed emotions.

  1. Beautifully stated. Our students with autism might fall to the ground holding their mouths and cry as if in pain. They can’t say “I had my braces tightened and it hurts.” We have to get on the ground with them and start with the guessing game. We have to deduce what the problem is. Too many people think the autistic student can and should be able to put a title and name to their emotions and feelings. They can’t do this and it’s up to us to help them muddle through the super-highway of their feelings, whether negative or positive.


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