Dads of Autism.
The unsung heros.
The hidden saviours.
Autism mums have it easier to some degree. There is more support out there for them, and lets face it, men are less likely to ask for it anyway.
Men are less likely to admit their feelings, therefore less likely to admit they need help.
But they do.
As much as the mums, if not more.
Men are not as good at moaning about how hard it can be.
They don’t chat to their friends about how few hours sleep they got last night, how they witnessed a meltdown, or even the childs diagnosis….they just don’t get to offload.
Men don’t feel that they should…..that they can.
It is the typical stereotype of the man.
Him being the hard man, strong man, don’t cry man….but it is just not true.
Women are just better at moaning and getting things off their chests.
We offload to our friends, our family…….our blogs!
The men need to offload as much as the women.
Dads need to learn to understand and own their feelings as much as our children.
To learn to share their feelings….control their feelings as bottling them up in such a high pressure and stressful environment is not an option.
Someday that lid will blow.
Our children need us to understand our own emotions before we can teach them about theirs.
If we are cross we need to teach them we are cross.
If we are happy we need to teach them that is what a smile means.
They won’t pick up on it like neurotypical children do, emotions are hard to read if you are on the Autistic spectrum.
If we are not honest about how we feel, how can we teach feelings and emotions?
We are their role models. Their teachers.
This Dad understands everything about my girl.
He can walk in the door and tell what is going to happen.
If it has been a good day or a bad day.
He can see if my girl just needs him to sit quietly next to her, or if she has something really exciting to tell him.
He can see a meltdown brewing, he has learnt the signs.
Something I don’t always see when surrounded by Autism all day.
He is there for my boy. From play fights to bedtime stories, he is there.
Not only the best Dads, but the best partner there can be.
I can pull on his strengths when my reserves are low.
When he has done a long day at work and walks into a meltdown, he will take over with no questions asked.
He understands it is hard.
No one knows how hard it is unless you live with it.
He can celebrate the positives with me and shout about the smallest new thing at the top of his voice!
He can make my girl produce the most beautiful smiles.
He can make my boy feel safe when things get rough.
He gives the best hugs.
He is not afraid to show his loving side.
He is always there for us.
He is a superhero.
He is our superhero.