Autism, siblings, and a little pup.

Having a child with Autism can be hard.
Hard to get people to understand.
Hard to get people to accept.

Having a child with Autism and a neurotypical “normal” child can make things harder.
Harder to get people to understand.
Harder to get people to accept.

Harder because the effects on the sibling are enormous.
Harder because, at home, it is the norm for them to have to cope with the differences.
Harder for the sibling as he has to explain everything.
His lateness, his tiredness….
Things get assumed.
That he is not coping…..that I am not coping.
Things are not accepted.
Things aren’t understood.

2017 saw the arrival of our puppy.
The puppy intended to help my girl with her anxiety.
The puppy that has helped my girl with her anxiety.

The same puppy understands her.
That same puppy accepts her.

My boy, my neurotypical beautiful boy, has also developed such a bond with the puppy.
A bond that is undescribable.
She understands his need for comfort and crawls on his lap for cuddles.
She understands his need for a friend as she brings him her toys to play with.

She understands him.
She accepts him.

She doesn’t judge, she doesn’t have favourites.
She gives what is needed.
She just knows.

I never, ever, would have thought it but that gorgeous little bundle of mischief has taught us all so much.
She has bought us all a sense of calm, and comfort when things are unstable.

Both my girl and my boy are much more settled.
Each with a little friend who can help them in more ways than I ever can…..
…..and wherever they go she will always be there.

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