Who has the disability?

Hidden disabilities.
Are they?
I mean, once we understand the disability, is it really hidden?
I could probably pick out a child on the spectrum because I know……I understand.
To the public yes it is hidden. Not the disability. The diagnosis. The understanding of the diagnosis.
Not so much hidden, but misunderstood.
My girl doesn’t scream “I have Autism”, at her school friends, but they know she is different.
I use the term friends loosely as her disability is hidden, the children don’t understand her. They don’t know. They don’t want to be her friend.
In that respect it is hidden.
Mid meltdown it is not a hidden disability, it is screaming (literally!) that there is a difference present as at age 11 tantrums are not the norm,
but it IS hidden to those who choose to believe it is my bad parenting, or my girl is a ‘spoilt brat’.
Is it hidden?
When my girl is in her wheelchair people treat her as disabled, when she is walking sensibly then it is hidden. She becomes ‘normal’.
Are her physical disabilities a hidden disability?
Sometimes they are, on a good day you wouldn’t realise.
Neurological, physical……..hidden disabilities.
Can any disability be a hidden disability?
Can disability be ignored, become normal……..become a part of ‘normal’?
Are they called ‘hidden disabilities’ because people refuse to believe they are there, or because people can’t see a difference?
In a world where no two people are the same, how can a difference mean you have a disability?
A complicated thought. A complex process.


2 thoughts on “Who has the disability?

  1. Thank you for these thoughts! I stumbled on your blog while looking for other Aspie bloggers. I am a woman diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was 28. I’ve recently started my own blog all about women on the spectrum. I look forward to following your future posts. =)


  2. The ‘hidden disability’ aspect remains because too many NTs still want it to. I recently had a very positive meeting with some people from Tapping House Hospice, who are looking into addressing my care needs (I have been having a very difficult time over the last few motnhs due to cancer) and what stood out as compared to others I have talked to about these issues is that there were obviously considering me as a human being, not just (though this too is important) as an autistic person. More detail here: https://aspi.blog/2019/01/03/a-busy-day/


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